If you want to know the answer you first need to know the question. Once you know the question, you then have to ask the question. Not just to yourself but also aloud and that’s where things can get scary. This is where the expectations and assumptions come in like Mike Tyson with a knock out punch. If you assume someone will support you in a certain way and they don’t then your expectations are shattered.
No one learns to bob and weave without taking a couple hits. Don’t focus on the hit you just took or you may get hit again. Get back on your guard after you take a hit and prepare for the next one. Or at least be prepared to stop the same punch from landing again. If you don’t and you stand there just taking punches the ref just may call the fight.